"There can be no keener revelation of a society’s soul than the way in which it treats its children" - Nelson Mandela

This is my first post on this new blog. I welcome differing opinions as long as they agree with me. JUST KIDDING! Please feel free to comment and or disagree. Hopefully we can resolve some issues and at least reflect on others.

“There can be no keener revelation of a society’s soul than the way in which it treats its children.” Nelson Mandela

1.       Parenting can’t be left to the TV, computer, I-pad, I-phone tweeting, texting or any other technological device.

2.        the truth about divorce as far as the kids are concerned differs from what we might think as parents. It has never been pretty for the man and woman involved. Now we should look at the kids side to divorce which is the unheard and unseen pieces of the story. Adults want and must get their lives back together but kids can never put their lives back together. In the best of circumstances there is loss and sometimes permanent loss. Kids face the hardest challenges when there is a divorce yet are given the least amount of support.

3.       Bullying  begins when our baby is mobile.

4.       Empathy  and kindness should be qualities we nurture in our kids.

5.       Family must be overestimated rather than underestimated.

6.       Food, clothes, language, patience, discipline, school  work, responsibility, accountability, and time with our kids are subjects of extreme importance.

7.       Love will always top everything and can work miracles. Loving our child unconditionally is key in my opinion. We may all agree we do love our kids but many times kids are not aware of this unconditional love. Time we fessed up.

8.       Kids pretend to accept certain situations they may hate because they either cannot control it or don’t realize they can.

9.      Kids will always love their biological parents regardless of our shortcomings.

10.   We really can’t buy our child’s love which is a good thing but in some situations a bad thing.

11.   Our presence is worth a million times more than our presents.

12.   We will never be our child’s friend but we can always be their parent.

13.   Being a parent will be our highest calling in life. The more we teach and impart empathy to our child, the more our soul will grow.

Add some questions thoughts or uncertainties. Ask for ideas, advice or statements of confusion. It is better to question than to assume all is okay because everyone is silent. From my time spent with teaching kids I can assure you that kids are not silent about their emotional distresses. I’m not implying they tell tales but I am emphasizing they overflow with painful emotions they find difficult to accommodate within themselves. Let’s talk for real because some problems can be resolved.

“When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw you hang up my first painting on the refrigerator and I wanted to paint another one.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw you feed a stray cat and I thought it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn’t’ looking I saw you make my favorite cake for me and I knew that little things are special things.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I heard you say a prayer and I believed there is a God I could always talk to.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I felt you kiss me goodnight and I felt loved.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw that you cared and I wanted to be everything that I could be.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I LOOKED….and wanted to say thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn’t looking.”    Connie Back

 

My third book TUMLEWEED KIDS, (How I got my blog title) is a new look at some old problems.